Can't delete - Need cascading update instead

For various reasons, I can't actually delete records from my database.
Instead, I have a boolean 'active' field for each table. I need to
implement something like cascading delete, but instead of deleting, I
need to set active=false.

I've googled and haven't found a solution. I had two ideas, neither of
which worked out.

One thing I tried is to set ON DELETE CASCADE for all of my foreign key
constraints. Then I added a rule ON DELETE DO ALSO UPDATE ... and a
BEFORE DELETE trigger to stop the actual deletion. Unfortunately, that
also stops the cascade.

My other idea involved an ON DELETE DO INSTEAD UPDATE ... rule and a
BEFORE UPDATE PL/pgSQL trigger that manually implemented the cascading.
The problem with that is that the only way I can find to generate an
approproate UPDATE or DELETE statement is to create a string and then
EXECUTE it, but I need values from the NEW or OLD records, which
apparently aren't usable from an EXECUTE statement. I'll include my
code at the end.

I haven't looked into using C. If that's what it takes, it'll be faster
for me to just do it client side.

Are there any other potential server-side solutions that I'm missing?

Thanks for reading,

Adam Tomjack

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My failed update trigger:

CREATE OR REPLACE FUNCTION my_cascading_deleter()
RETURNS "trigger" LANGUAGE 'plpgsql' VOLATILE AS
$BODY$
DECLARE
r RECORD;
r2 RECORD;
r3 RECORD;
i RECORD;
sql TEXT;
BEGIN
IF NEW.active=false AND OLD.active=true THEN
-- Loop over each table that references this one.
FOR r IN SELECT child.relname AS child, child.oid AS childid,
parent.oid AS parentid, c.conkey AS childkey,
c.confkey AS parentkey FROM pg_constraint c
JOIN pg_class child ON (child.oid=c.conrelid)
JOIN pg_class parent ON (parent.oid=c.confrelid)
WHERE contype='f' and parent.oid=TG_RELID
LOOP
sql := 'DELETE FROM '||r.child||' WHERE ';
-- Loop over every column in the primary key
FOR i IN 1 .. array_upper(r.childkey, 1) LOOP
SELECT INTO r2 attname FROM pg_attribute WHERE attrelid=r.childid
AND attnum=r.childkey[i];
SELECT INTO r3 attname FROM pg_attribute WHERE attrelid=r.parentid
AND attnum=r.parentkey[i];
sql := sql || ' ' || r2.attname || '=OLD.' || r3.attname;
END LOOP;
EXECUTE sql; -- ERROR, doesn't understand the OLD record
END LOOP;
END IF;
RETURN NEW;
END;
$BODY$
;